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Menopause – it’s not just women’s talk!
Menopause is a stage of life, like puberty, but it happens at a point in your life where you have lived, a lot! It doesn’t just affect your thought, it affects the people who live around you. It can be a difficult time to negotiate. So why am I talking about it? My first novel, Gradually, Then Suddenly has recently been published. Yay! Evie, my main character is a woman who has been a wife and mother for 25 years so a lot of water has gone under the bridge. She tries valiantly to deal with her menopause on her own and only succeeds in creating distance between her husband and herself. It’s not an unusual situation, but it’s what happens next to both of them that means life takes on a very dramatic new course.
One of the impacts of Evie’s menopause is the fact that she goes on to HRT to help to deal with the symptoms, but what Jake and Evie don’t realise is that Jake starts to absorb the oestrogen and it also impacts him! Is this true? It can be with vaginal HRT or even patches that may come off. Ladies you must make sure that your man is not exposed to your oestrogen! Here’s an excerpt from Gradually, Then Suddenly when Jake finds out from his doctor why he’s been feeling so depressed and why he hasn’t been able to get an erection …
“My wife has HRT,” replied a puzzled Jake.
“Is it the patch sort?”
“No. It’s the vaginal sort.”
“How long has she been on it? Do you know?”
“About three months, I think and her doctor has recently reduced the dose.”
“And whilst she’s been on this, do you have unprotected sexual relations?”
“Yes, we do. My wife had a hysterectomy a few years ago and so contraception became unnecessary.”
“In that case I believe we’ve found the culprit. Your wife should have been told that you would need to use condoms whilst she was on this form of HRT because the vaginal oestrogen is also absorbed by your sensitive parts and it will also go into your blood stream.”
“Oh! Good grief,” replied Jake in astonishment. “Does this explain why my boobs have become more fleshy too … and why I’ve felt emotional?”
“Most likely, Mr Harvey. You need to protect yourself. But, in the meantime, I’m going to recommend a course of testosterone to counter it. Is that okay? You’ve got nothing to worry about, except your wife’s HRT!”
“And, and, this really explains my lack of being able to get an erection?”
“It does. Would you like some Viagra in the meantime as well?”
“Might be an idea!” said Jake whose relief was plain for Mr Wilson to hear.
“I’ll get this written up for you and we’ll send it across.”
“Thank you. Thank you so much.”
“We need another consultation in about a month and we can check in then. Unless you have any further questions or problems in the meantime, but I think you will find that things start returning to normal in good time.”
“OK, great. Thanks again. I really can’t wait!”
You can find out how Jake got here and where it led him in my new book – available on Kindle and Paperback! I hope you like it. I’d love to hear your feedback.